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Why the News Is Making You Anxious: Understanding News Anxiety, Vicarious Trauma, and Nervous System Overload

Why does watching the news cause anxiety, panic, or emotional shutdown? Learn how news anxiety and vicarious trauma dysregulate the nervous system and what helps restore balance.

Why Does Watching the News Feel So Overwhelming?

Have you noticed your heart racing after watching the news? Trouble sleeping after reading headlines? A sense of dread, numbness, or helplessness when you try to make sense of ongoing violence, political unrest, or human suffering?

Many people are asking the same questions:

— Why does the news make me anxious?
— Why do I feel emotionally flooded or shut down after watching the news?
— Is it normal to feel traumatized by events that did not happen to me directly?
— How do I stay informed without feeling overwhelmed?

These reactions are not signs of weakness or overreaction. They are signs of a nervous system under chronic strain.

What Is News Anxiety?

News anxiety refers to heightened anxiety, distress, or nervous system dysregulation triggered by repeated exposure to news coverage, especially stories involving violence, injustice, disasters, or threat.

This can include:

— Panic or anxiety symptoms
— Emotional overwhelm or tearfulness
— Numbness or emotional shutdown
— Irritability or anger
— Difficulty concentrating
— Sleep disturbances
— A sense of hopelessness or loss of meaning

News anxiety is increasingly common in an era of constant media access, graphic imagery, and real-time updates that offer little opportunity for the nervous system to reset.

Vicarious Trauma and the Brain

From a neuroscience perspective, the brain does not clearly distinguish between direct threat and witnessed threat.

Research on vicarious trauma shows that repeated exposure to others’ suffering can activate the same neural networks involved in direct trauma exposure. When we watch violence, hear distressing stories, or repeatedly imagine worst-case scenarios, the brain’s threat detection systems respond as if danger is present.

Key brain regions involved include:

— The amygdala, which detects threat
— The hippocampus, which stores emotional memory
— The anterior cingulate cortex, which processes pain and distress
— The insula, which maps bodily sensations and emotional states

Over time, this repeated activation can lead to chronic nervous system arousal or, conversely, protective shutdown.

Nervous System Overload and Dysregulation

When the nervous system is repeatedly exposed to perceived threat without resolution, it can become stuck in survival states.

Common nervous system responses to news exposure include:

Sympathetic activation

— Anxiety
— Hypervigilance
— Racing thoughts
— Anger or agitation
— Compulsive news checking

Parasympathetic shutdown

— Emotional numbness
— Dissociation
— Fatigue
— Withdrawal
— A sense of meaninglessness

Both are adaptive responses to overwhelm. Neither indicates pathology.

Why Senseless Violence Is So Dysregulating

Human nervous systems are wired for meaning-making. When events feel random, unjust, or incomprehensible, the brain struggles to integrate them.

Senseless violence disrupts:

— Our assumptions about safety
— Our belief in predictability
— Our sense of moral order
— Our trust in institutions and community

This existential disruption is often what people mean when they say, “I cannot make sense of what is happening.” The distress is not only emotional but also deeply neurobiological.

The Role of Media Saturation

Unlike previous generations, modern news consumption is:

— Continuous
— Visual and graphic
— Algorithm-driven
— Emotionally amplified

Doomscrolling keeps the nervous system in a near-constant state of alert without offering resolution or agency. The body receives threat signals but no clear action path, which increases anxiety and helplessness.

This is particularly impactful for people with:

— A history of trauma
— High empathy
— Attachment wounds
— Anxiety disorders
— Depression or dissociation
— Caregiving or helping professions

Why Some People Feel It More Intensely

Not everyone experiences news anxiety the same way. Differences often relate to nervous system sensitivity and personal history.

People who grew up in environments marked by unpredictability, violence, emotional neglect, or chronic stress often have sensitized threat detection systems. Their bodies learned early that vigilance was necessary for survival.

For these individuals, the news does not feel informational. It feels personal.

How Trauma-Informed Therapy Helps

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we understand news anxiety as a nervous system response, not a cognitive failure.

Effective treatment focuses on:

— Restoring nervous system regulation
— Increasing tolerance for emotional activation
— Rebuilding a sense of safety and agency
— Addressing trauma stored in the body
— Supporting meaning-making without overwhelm

Modalities such as somatic therapy, EMDR, attachment-based therapy, and nervous system-informed psychotherapy help clients process distress without retraumatization.

Practical Ways to Reduce News-Related Anxiety

1. Shift from constant exposure to intentional consumption

Limit news intake to specific times of day. Avoid starting or ending the day with distressing content.

2. Regulate before and after exposure

Grounding practices such as slow breathing, movement, or orienting to the room help the nervous system reset.

3. Notice your body’s cues

If your body tightens, dissociates, or races, that is information. Respect it.

4. Focus on agency and connection

Engaging in meaningful action, community support, or values-based living helps counter helplessness.

5. Work with a trauma-informed therapist

Professional support helps integrate emotional responses without suppressing or escalating them.

A Compassionate Reframe

Feeling overwhelmed by the news does not mean you are fragile or disengaged. It often means you are human, empathic, and wired for connection.

Your nervous system is responding exactly as it was designed to respond to threat and uncertainty.

With support, it can also learn how to return to safety, presence, and resilience.

How Embodied Wellness and Recovery Can Help

Embodied Wellness and Recovery specializes in trauma-informed, nervous system-based therapy for individuals struggling with anxiety, emotional overwhelm, dissociation, and relational distress.

Our work integrates neuroscience, somatic awareness, attachment theory, and compassionate clinical care to help clients navigate distressing times without losing themselves in the process.

Reach out to schedule a complimentary 20-minute consultation with our team of therapists, trauma specialists, somatic practitioners, or relationship experts, and start working towards integrative, embodied healing today.

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References

1) Eisenberger, N. I., & Lieberman, M. D. (2004). Why rejection hurts: A common neural alarm system for physical and social pain. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 8(7), 294–300.

2) McCann, I. L., & Pearlman, L. A. (1990). Vicarious traumatization: A framework for understanding the psychological effects of working with victims. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 3(1), 131–149.

3) van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking.

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How Trauma-Based Shame Affects Relationships and Intimacy: Why Connection Feels So Hard

How Trauma-Based Shame Affects Relationships and Intimacy: Why Connection Feels So Hard

Trauma-based shame can sabotage trust and intimacy. Learn how its neurobiology shapes relationships and how therapy can safely soften shame.

How Trauma-Based Shame Affects Relationships and Intimacy

Do you want closeness but feel tense when someone gets close?
Do you anticipate rejection before it happens and then pull away to protect yourself?
Do you rely on avoidance, emotional distance, or self-silencing to manage the pain of wanting connection?

For many people, these patterns are not about fear of intimacy alone. They are driven by trauma-based shame, a deeply ingrained emotional state that shapes how the brain, nervous system, and body respond to relationships.

Trauma-based shame does not simply say, “Something bad happened.” It says, “Something is wrong with me.” When this belief becomes encoded in the nervous system, intimacy can feel dangerous even when love is present.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we see how trauma-based shame quietly governs relational dynamics, sexuality, and emotional safety. Understanding its neurobiology helps explain why connection feels so hard and why compassion and precision are essential for change.

What Is Trauma Based Shame?

Shame is a social emotion designed to protect a sense of belonging. In healthy development, brief experiences of shame help us repair relationships and maintain social bonds. Trauma-based shame, however, forms when early experiences repeatedly communicate that safety, love, or connection are conditional.

This can occur through:

— Chronic emotional neglect
— Childhood abuse or humiliation
— Attachment disruption or inconsistent caregiving
— Sexual trauma or boundary violations
— Experiences of being blamed, silenced, or shamed during vulnerability
Over time, the nervous system learns that closeness leads to danger. Shame becomes the internal alarm system that activates whenever intimacy, dependency, or desire arises.

Why Trauma-Based Shame Makes Trust So Difficult

Trust requires the nervous system to register safety. Trauma-based shame interferes with this process at multiple levels. Shame narrows attention and increases threat sensitivity. The brain scans for signs of rejection, disappointment, or abandonment. Neutral cues are often interpreted as evidence that harm is coming.

This leads many people to ask themselves:

— What if they see the real me?
— What if I am too much or not enough?
— What if closeness exposes something shameful?

To reduce this internal threat, the nervous system often defaults to avoidance strategies such as emotional withdrawal, people pleasing, perfectionism, or self-reliance. These strategies provide short-term relief but reinforce long-term disconnection.

The Neurobiology of Trauma-Based Shame

From a neuroscience perspective, trauma-based shame is not a cognitive choice. It is a state-dependent response rooted in survival circuitry.

Key Brain and Nervous System Processes Involved

The Amygdala

Shame activates the amygdala, the brain’s threat detection center. Intimacy becomes associated with danger, even in the absence of present threat.

The Prefrontal Cortex

Under shame activation, the prefrontal cortex becomes less accessible. This limits perspective, self-compassion, and flexible thinking. Insight alone cannot override this process.

The Autonomic Nervous System

Shame often drives collapse, shutdown, or appeasement responses rather than fight-or-flight responses. These states reduce visibility and emotional exposure.

The Insula

The insula integrates bodily sensations and emotional awareness. Trauma-based shame disrupts interoception, making it difficult to interpret internal signals accurately. The body feels unreliable or unsafe. Together, these processes explain why shame feels so sticky and why it can persist even after years of insight-oriented therapy.

Why Shame Vigilantly Protects Itself

One of the most confusing aspects of trauma-based shame is how fiercely it resists change. This is not because people want to suffer. It is because shame functions as a protective strategy.

Shame believes:

— Visibility equals danger
— Vulnerability invites harm
— Dependency leads to loss
— Desire risks humiliation

As a result, shame actively avoids exposure. It discourages talking about needs. It dismisses reassurance. It mistrusts care. It interprets therapeutic attention as scrutiny rather than support.

This is why people often say:

— Therapy helps intellectually, but nothing shifts emotionally
— I understand my trauma, but still feel defective
— Compliments feel uncomfortable or unsafe

Shame protects itself by remaining hidden. Any intervention that feels corrective, confrontational, or rushed can unintentionally strengthen it.

How Traditional Treatments May Sustain Shame

While many therapeutic approaches are well-intentioned, some can inadvertently deepen shame if they do not account for nervous system state.

Overemphasis on Cognitive Insight

When therapy focuses primarily on challenging beliefs without regulating the body, clients may feel blamed for not improving faster.

Premature Exposure

Encouraging vulnerability or disclosure before safety is established can reinforce the belief that openness leads to harm.

Behavior Focus Without Context

Pressuring clients to change relational behaviors without addressing underlying shame can feel invalidating and coercive.

Pathologizing Language

Framing attachment strategies or avoidance as resistance can activate shame rather than curiosity.

Trauma-based shame requires a pace and approach that honors its protective role while gently updating the nervous system’s expectations.

How Trauma-Based Shame Affects Sexuality and Intimacy

Sexuality often intensifies shame responses because it involves exposure, desire, and bodily sensation. Many people experience:

— Difficulty accessing desire
— Fear of being seen during intimacy
— Dissociation during sex
— Avoidance of physical closeness
— Confusion between safety and arousal

These patterns are not failures of desire. They are adaptive responses shaped by a nervous system that learned intimacy was unsafe.

Healing intimacy requires restoring a sense of bodily agency and emotional safety, not forcing performance or connection.

What Helps Ease Trauma-Based Shame

Change begins when shame is met with regulation before reflection.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we integrate trauma-informed, neuroscience-based, and relational approaches that help clients gradually experience safety in connection

Key Elements of Effective Treatment

Nervous System Regulation

Somatic interventions help reduce threat activation, allowing the brain to process new relational experiences.

Attachment Focused Therapy

Exploring relational patterns with attunement and consistency helps update expectations around closeness.

Parts-Oriented Work

Recognizing shame as a protective part reduces internal conflict and self-blame.

Relational Repair

Experiencing non-judgmental presence within therapy challenges shame’s prediction that exposure leads to harm.

Integration of Body and Mind

When bodily sensations are included, emotional learning becomes possible at a deeper level.

These approaches do not eliminate shame through force. They allow it to soften as safety becomes embodied.

Why Connection Can Become Possible Again

Trauma-based shame did not form overnight, and it does not resolve instantly. But the nervous system can learn new patterns when conditions support it.

As safety increases:

— Trust becomes more accessible
— Avoidance loosens its grip
— Desire and curiosity re-emerge
— Agency and choice return

Connection stops feeling like a threat and begins to feel like a possibility.

How Embodied Wellness and Recovery Help

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in helping individuals and couples work with trauma-based shame across relationships, sexuality, and intimacy.

Our approach integrates:

— Trauma-informed psychotherapy
— Nervous system repair
— Attachment-based relational work
— Somatic and experiential interventions

We understand that shame is not something to confront aggressively. It is something to approach with patience, precision, and respect for its history.

Presence, Choice, and Mutuality

If connection feels exhausting, risky, or unreachable, the problem is not a lack of effort or desire. Trauma-based shame shapes how the nervous system interprets closeness.

With the proper support, shame does not need to be eradicated. It needs to be understood, regulated, and gradually reassured that connection no longer equals danger.

When that happens, intimacy can become less about survival and more about presence, choice, and mutuality.