Healing from Love Addiction: How Somatic Therapy Helps You Reconnect with Yourself

Struggling with the emotional highs and lows of love addiction? Discover how somatic therapy can help regulate your nervous system, ease love addiction withdrawal, and reconnect you with your sense of self.

Caught in the Storm of Love Addiction?

Do you feel like you're losing yourself in the obsession over someone else? Are you stuck in a cycle of intense longing, euphoric highs, and devastating lows that leave you emotionally drained and disconnected from your core Self?

Many people find themselves in the grip of love addiction, experiencing an overwhelming attachment to a romantic interest that feels all-consuming and uncontrollable. Initially, the emotional rollercoaster may feel intoxicating, but at times it can feel torturous, especially during love addiction withdrawal or the obsessive despair of limerence.

Fortunately, many people struggling with love addiction or relational obsession have found lasting healing, transforming not just their relationship patterns, but their entire lives. While the process isn’t easy, it invites a deep kind of courage—the kind that grows as we learn to stay with what’s uncomfortable and trust that growth is happening beneath the surface.

Each of us carries wounds, and until we have the courage to gently turn toward them, to acknowledge their presence, and offer them compassion, the inner peace we seek will continue to evade us. We will never get to know our authentic selves, the people we are meant to be. The path to healing is not always linear. Yet it’s through this brave, ongoing process of nurturing our tender places that we discover who we truly are and what ultimately gives our lives richness and meaning.

Somatic therapy can be profoundly helpful, allowing you to release the trauma responses stored in your body, develop tools to regulate your nervous system so that you can increase your window of tolerance and build resilience, connect with your body and emotions in a way that feels safe and supportive, so that you can live with more embodiment, awareness, and freedom.

What Is Love Addiction?

Love addiction is not simply being in love too much. It's a compulsive pattern of attaching to another person in a way that mirrors the brain’s response to substance addiction. Individuals with love addiction often:

     – Obsessively think about a partner or romantic interest

     – Idealize the person while ignoring red flags

     – Feel extreme anxiety or emptiness when not in contact

     – Sacrifice personal boundaries and self-worth to maintain the connection

Love addiction is often driven by early attachment wounds, unresolved trauma, and nervous system dysregulation that compel us to seek external validation or intensity to feel temporarily whole.

The Neuroscience Behind Love Addiction

Neuroscience shows us that romantic obsession and addiction share common brain pathways:

     – Dopamine, the brain’s “reward” chemical, floods our system during infatuation and attachment, creating a sense of euphoria.

     – The limbic system, which governs emotion and memory, lights up in ways nearly identical to drug addiction.

     – Withdrawal from the person can trigger stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline, leading to panic, anxiety, depression, and even physical symptoms.

When the attachment system is activated, especially in those with trauma or inconsistent early caregiving, the brain interprets separation not just as emotional loss but as a survival threat.

What Is Limerence?

Limerence is the obsessive, involuntary state of intense infatuation and emotional dependence that often accompanies love addiction. It involves:

     – Idealizing the person

     – Fantasizing about the relationship

     – Craving reciprocation to soothe internal anxiety

This state hijacks the nervous system and can make it feel impossible to let go, even when the relationship is unhealthy or unavailable.

Why Is It So Hard to Let Go?

When your nervous system has been conditioned to associate intensity with love, safety can feel boring or even threatening. This is especially true for individuals with trauma, codependency, or personality disorders such as borderline personality disorder or anxious-preoccupied attachment.

You might ask yourself:

     – Why do I feel so empty without this person?

     – Why do I keep going back even when I know it's not good for me?

     – Why does love feel like a drug I can’t quit?

What may seem purely psychological is often deeply rooted in the nervous system.

How Somatic Therapy Supports Recovery from Love Addiction

Somatic therapy addresses the body’s role in trauma and emotional attachment, helping you rewire your nervous system so you can access safety, connection, and self-trust without emotional chaos.

1. Regulating the Nervous System

Somatic practices, such as grounding, orienting, and resourcing, help bring the body out of fight-or-flight and into a more regulated state. This is crucial when experiencing withdrawal from an obsessive attachment.

2. Releasing Trauma Held in the Body

Using methods like Somatic Experiencing or Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, the body is supported in discharging the stored energy of old relational wounds, so your system no longer confuses chaos with connection.

3. Building a Felt Sense of Safety and Self

Somatic therapy helps you develop interoception (awareness of internal sensations), which builds the capacity to feel safe inside your own body, even without the presence of the person you’ve fixated on.

4. Repairing Attachment Wounds

Through attuned therapeutic relationships, you can begin to repair internal models of love, connection, and worthiness. When your body learns that it can survive, even thrive, without unhealthy attachment, true healing begins.

What Does Healing Look Like?

Healing from love addiction isn’t about becoming invulnerable to love. It’s about creating boundaries, emotional regulation, and secure attachment—so you can love freely without losing yourself.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we help individuals:

     – Move through love addiction withdrawal with compassion and skill

     – Use somatic tools to calm obsessive thinking and anxiety

     – Reconnect with their core values, goals, and sense of identity

     – Rewire patterns rooted in trauma and attachment wounding

     – Build relationships based on mutual respect, intimacy, and authenticity

We integrate EMDR, IFS (parts work), trauma-informed coaching, and psychoeducation to support a holistic recovery process rooted in both neuroscience and heart-centered care.

You Are Worth Reconnection

Love addiction can make you feel like your survival depends on someone else's attention, but it doesn’t. Your body holds the map back to wholeness, clarity, and connection, and somatic therapy can help you follow it.

You don’t have to remain stuck in the painful cycle of longing, obsession, and abandonment. Your system can learn to settle, and you can feel safe in yourself again.
With time and self-compassion, the body can relearn how to feel steady, connected, and whole, allowing you to experience authentic intimacy and nourishing love, starting with yourself.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in helping you reconnect with your body, your boundaries, and your truth. Reach out today to schedule a free 20-minute consultation with our team of top-rated relationship and addiction experts, trauma specialists, and Certified Sex Addiction Specialists. 

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🧠 References:

Fisher, H. E., Aron, A., & Brown, L. L. (2006). Romantic Love: A Mammalian Brain System for Mate Choice. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 361(1476), 2173–2186. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2006.1938

Levine, A., & Heller, R. S. (2010). Attached: The New s=Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love. TarcherPerigee.

Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.

Living in Overdrive: The Overlooked Link Between Trauma, ADHD, and Nervous System Dysregulation

What is the link between ADHD and chronic sympathetic nervous system activation? Learn how trauma stored in the body can mimic or amplify ADHD symptoms—and how somatic therapy offers hope for regulation and healing.

What Is the Connection Between ADHD and Excess Sympathetic Nervous System Arousal from a Trauma Response Stored in the Body?

Do you often feel constantly “on,” as if your body is revving in high gear—even when you’re exhausted?

Are you easily distracted, reactive, and struggling to sit still, even in moments of supposed rest?

Does your mind race, your body tense, and your sleep disrupted—despite attempts to calm down?

If you resonate with these experiences, you may be living with sympathetic nervous system overactivation—a chronic state of fight-or-flight. For many people diagnosed with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), especially those with trauma histories, this nervous system dysregulation plays a central yet often overlooked role.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in treating trauma not just cognitively but somatically—understanding how the body stores trauma and how it can influence attention, emotional regulation, and relational safety. This blog will explore the neuroscience behind this phenomenon and offer compassionate, body-based solutions.

Understanding the Sympathetic Nervous System: Your Body’s Accelerator

The sympathetic nervous system (SNS) is part of your autonomic nervous system, which regulates involuntary bodily functions like heart rate, digestion, and respiration. When the SNS is activated, it prepares your body for survival—this is the fight-or-flight response:

     – Heart rate increases
     – Breathing becomes shallow
    – Muscles tense
     – Focus narrows on potential threats

This response is adaptive in acute danger. However,  when trauma is unresolved or chronic, the body can remain stuck in a state of sympathetic overdrive, even in the absence of present-day threats.

ADHD and Chronic Nervous System Dysregulation

ADHD is often described as a neurodevelopmental disorder involving challenges with attention, impulsivity, and executive function. But these symptoms don’t occur in a vacuum.

Emerging research reveals that many ADHD symptoms may intersect with trauma-related nervous system dysregulation—particularly sympathetic dominance. Here’s how:

     – Hyperactivity can reflect internal hyperarousal
     – Impulsivity may be a survival response (fight or flee)
    – Inattention can stem from mental exhaustion or dissociation
     – Emotional dysregulation often correlates with a nervous system stuck in high alert

In this light, what we label as ADHD may, for some, be a nervous system adaptation to early life stress, neglect, or trauma.

The Role of Stored Trauma in ADHD-like Symptoms

Trauma is not just a psychological experience—it lives in the body. According to Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, trauma reshapes both the brain and the body, altering how we respond to the world (van der Kolk, 2014).

When trauma is stored in the body, it creates chronic activation of the sympathetic nervous system. Over time, this baseline of hypervigilance can resemble or exacerbate ADHD symptoms:

     – Difficulty sitting still (a body on alert)
     – Scattered attention (focus hijacked by perceived threat)
    – Interrupting or talking over others (survival-driven impulsivity)
     – Trouble sleeping (anxiety lodged in the nervous system)

It’s not that ADHD and trauma are the same, but in many cases, ADHD, like behaviors may reflect trauma responses embedded in the body’s physiology.

The Window of Tolerance: When Regulation Is Out of Reach

Trauma reduces our “window of tolerance”—the range of nervous system states within which we can function optimally. In ADHD and trauma, individuals may fluctuate between:

     – Hyperarousal (sympathetic state): anxiety, agitation, panic, anger
     – Hypoarousal (parasympathetic collapse): fatigue, freeze, disconnection

This leads to internal chaos that can look like classic ADHD but is, at its root, a nervous system attempting to protect you.

The ADHD–Trauma Overlap: Misdiagnosis and Missed Opportunities

This overlap raises essential questions:

      – What if ADHD isn’t just a brain-based disorder but also a trauma-informed adaptation?
     – Could somatic healing of the nervous system reduce or recalibrate ADHD symptoms?
      – Are we treating attention problems with stimulants when the underlying issue is unresolved trauma?

It’s crucial not to pathologize survival strategies. What may look like disorganization or distractibility might actually be your body doing its best to stay safe.

Hope and Healing Through Somatic and Trauma-Informed Therapy

The good news is that neuroplasticity—the brain and body’s ability to rewire—offers hope. At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we take a holistic approach to ADHD and trauma, integrating:

      – Somatic Experiencing: Gently releases stored trauma through body-based awareness and movement
     – Polyvagal-informed therapy: Builds nervous system regulation and expands the window of tolerance
     – EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): Reprocesses traumatic memories that keep the nervous system stuck
      – Trauma-Sensitive Yoga & Breathwork: Helps the body downshift from sympathetic to parasympathetic states
    – Mindfulness and lifestyle interventions: Encourage slower pacing, grounding, and body trust

Healing isn’t about fixing what’s broken. It’s about reconnecting with what’s always been wise within you.

Practical Tools to Soothe a Sympathetically Charged Nervous System

If you’re experiencing chronic stress, ADHD symptoms, or trauma responses, here are a few nervous system-friendly practices to begin with:

     – Walk more slowly throughout the day
    – Eat meals without distractions
     – Practice deep, diaphragmatic breathing
     – Spend time in nature daily
     – Limit digital stimulation
     – Hold a warm object (mug, heat pack) to signal safety to your body

Each small act of slowness tells your nervous system: You are safe now.

You’re Not Alone—and You’re Not “Too Much”

So many individuals, especially those with trauma histories, feel shame around their ADHD symptoms—believing they’re too scattered, too intense, and too emotional. But what if your body is simply doing its best to protect you?

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we see through the lens of compassion and neuroscience. You’re not defective. You’re a brilliant, adaptive human whose body has learned how to survive. And now—with the proper support—it can learn how to thrive.

If This Resonates…

If you’re wondering whether your ADHD symptoms might be linked to unresolved trauma or nervous system dysregulation, we invite you to reach out to schedule a free 20-minute consultation. Whether through 1:1 somatic therapy, EMDR intensives, or trauma-informed coaching, we’re here to support your healing.

You don’t have to live in overdrive. Let us help you restore balance, calm, and self-trust.

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References

Levine, P. A. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the body releases trauma and restores goodness. North Atlantic Books.

Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Penguin Books.

Healing at the Roots: How Somatic Experiencing Enhances Attachment-Focused EMDR

Struggling with emotional dysregulation rooted in attachment trauma? Discover the healing potential of combining Somatic Experiencing with Attachment-Focused EMDR. This powerful therapeutic blend helps regulate the nervous system, reprocess painful memories, and build secure relationships.

Why Is Attachment Trauma So Disruptive to the Nervous System?

Attachment trauma often results from chronic emotional neglect or inconsistency in early caregiving. It disrupts the nervous system’s ability to regulate emotions and creates long-lasting patterns of hypervigilance or shutdown in relationships. These responses are not psychological failures—they're adaptive survival strategies.

What Is Attachment-Focused EMDR?

Attachment-Focused EMDR (AF-EMDR) integrates standard EMDR protocols with relational and developmental repair strategies. It addresses core wounds of abandonment, shame, and relational trauma using imaginal resourcing, inner child work, and Ideal Parent Figure visualizations.

What Is Somatic Experiencing (SE)?

SE is a body-based trauma therapy that helps regulate the nervous system by tracking physical sensations, discharging survival energy, and restoring a sense of embodied safety. It’s based on the idea that trauma is stored in the body—not just the mind.

The Problem: EMDR Alone Can Trigger Overwhelm in Dysregulated Systems

Even gentle EMDR protocols can activate unresolved trauma. Without nervous system regulation, clients may dissociate, become overwhelmed, or regress emotionally. This signals the need for somatic support—not that EMDR has failed.

The Solution: Combining Somatic Experiencing with Attachment-Focused EMDR

Together, SE and AF-EMDR address trauma from the top down and bottom up. SE regulates the nervous system and prepares the body to engage in and integrate trauma processing. AF-EMDR then reprocesses attachment wounds while maintaining somatic safety.

Healing Intimacy After Betrayal Trauma

One client healed from emotional flashbacks and intimacy avoidance by combining SE and AF-EMDR. She felt more connected, grounded, and empowered in relationships through Ideal Parent resourcing, somatic tracking, and trauma reprocessing.

Why This Approach Matters for Relationships, Sexuality, and Intimacy

Attachment wounds affect trust, touch, and emotional vulnerability. Somatic work restores a sense of safety in the body, while EMDR transforms limiting beliefs. This combination is especially effective for relational trauma, sexual disconnection, and intimacy avoidance.

Hope Is Not Just a Concept—It’s a Felt Experience

Healing is about creating new relational templates where the body learns it’s safe to connect. At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we combine neuroscience-backed therapies to help you build real, lasting change from the inside out.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we’re here to offer that support—with skill, compassion, and deep respect for your journey.

Reach out today to schedule a free 20- minute consultation with our team of top-rated trauma specialits, EMDR experts, somatic practitioners, or couples therapists to discuss whether Embodied Wellness and Recovery could be an ideal fit for your healing needs. 

📍 Serving Los Angeles, Nashville, and clients nationwide (via telehealth)

📞 Call us at (310) 651-8458

📱 Text us at (310) 210-7934

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References

Levine, P. A. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. North Atlantic Books.

Parnell, L. (2013). Attachment-focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma. W. W. Norton & Company.

Siegel, D. J. (2012). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.